The Marriage Booster Clause

Posted by Michael HillerJan 10, 20180 Comments

Marriage booster clauses are clauses in prenuptial and postnuptial agreements that “boost” the marriage. In the marriage and relationship education (MRE) world, it is understood that all relationships can be improved through the learning of skills.  These skills are primarily communication, conflict management and other skills that allow for a healthy relationship.  For example, some folks have trouble with understanding that there are “five love languages”.  Those love languages are physical touch, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, acts of service, and quality time.  Gary Chapman, the educator who developed this concept, offers courses in how to understand your partner's love languages. The problem is that most people only understand their own.

A marriage booster clause, could have that the about to be married couple will take a course in the five love languages. There are many many other relationship courses around.  Again, the key ones are conflict management and communication, and then there are practical ones such as financial education.  There are many marriages that fall apart because neither party understands how money works or one does, and the other doesn't.

The most basic marriage booster clause in a prenuptial agreement will say that prior to the marriage, the couple will take 15 hours in relationship education. The courses will have the basics in communication and conflict management, financial literacy, and for example the five love languages.

The prenuptial agreement will also have an agreement that the parties will take 15 hours of education each year of marriage; however, they can also receive four-five credit hours annually for weekly date nights, weekend retreats, and so forth.  Additional language can include an agreement to go to a counselor if there is a crisis such as a parent dying, or spouse getting sick, or anything like that.

Finally, probably the most important course to take is the Gottman Institute's “bringing baby home” course, a.k.a. “baby makes three”, before the baby comes.  In my opinion, most marriages fall apart because the couple can't find the balance between the attention a child needs and the attention that the parents need to give each other for the health of the marriage.”